Finding My Me
The idea for My Me Consulting developed out of some writing I had done exploring how the thoughts rolling around in my head, and subsequent feelings they generated, are common to all humans. More profoundly, those same thoughts and feelings have been contemplated across all spans of time, by people across all types of backgrounds, cultures, and religions. As I explored those ideas, I felt a sense of myself in the context of all humankind. It was a new sensation, one that gave me a sense of freedom; a sense of well-being and purpose. Although completely unique as an individual, I am one of many, one of all. As I opened myself up to this idea, I found a profound connection to my inner self, which I termed “my me”.
For years, I kept that part of myself isolated, feeling less than, unworthy, unlovable, and unwanted.
I was caught up in distorted thoughts, beliefs and maladaptive coping mechanisms that held me back. I sought comfort in substances, unhealthy relationships and when those failed me, I just isolated and limited my life. As I wrote, I recognized myself in what others had been contemplating for millennia. I developed practices in yoga, breathwork, meditation, various styles of journaling, writing poetry, and working with others. As I connected myself to others, I found myself expanding my connection to me. I felt the greater energy of humanity.
I discovered I had a choice in what I thought. I took responsibility for what goes on in my mind and what goes in my mind. I found power. I taught myself to feel, to create tools to shift my perspective; to see myself as I am, not as I think I should be; to see others as they are, not as I think they should be; to experience the moments of life as they are, not as I think they should be. These are not the things I learned growing up or in school, they are what I teach myself in order to live with a greater ease.
I have experienced life from many different perspectives:
as a daughter, a sibling, a mother, a wife, a friend, a cousin, a niece, an aunt, an employee, an employer, a business owner, a coach, a mentor, a guide, an outside observer, as a loner, as the brunt of jokes and ridicule, as a victim, a survivor, as a lover, as a fighter, as selfish, as generous, as a client, a patient, a customer, as frustrated, as angry, as grief-stricken, as joyous, as peaceful, as surrendered, as neutral, as a pet owner, as a home owner, as a renter, as a landlord, as calm, as patient, as sober, as intoxicated, as hurt, as mourning, as rigid, as afraid, as terrified, as broken, as young, as old, as fit, as fat, as skinny, as ill, as healthy, as a failed perfectionist and so many more.
Who am I is simple: I AM.
‘I am” is the constant in the ever-shifting experiences that are occurring in my life. I train myself to be present, to embrace whatever life is offering me, to feel it, be in it and take what lessons I can. I train my mind to be flexible, open, and practice shifting my thoughts, beliefs and actions because change is the constant.
